How Will We Age?
Tuesday, May 09, 2006
Recently our photographer found out the true ages of DG and I and was so suprised that he couldn't wait to go home and tell his wife. They thought we were about the same age as them, which is 27. I remember spending the day with them, knowing that they were younger because of their sweet porcelain like skin, the likes of which had not yet been touched by crows feet. I remember when my best friend Holly first told me that she knew I was aging because when I smiled I had all of these lines around my eyes. Nice. I remember thinking I don't have lines around my...someone get me a mirror, and in horror seeing what she was talking about.
A few weeks ago, I realized that DG is going to be 40 next year. Well it's unfair to say that as he's not even turning 39 until mid-December. But I am marrying an old man. 40? But I look at him, and he acts about 32, and then I look at me, and wonder what I've done to deserve these bags under my eyes and I wonder which of us will age better. Will people think he has a young trophy wife? Or will they think I'm his older sister? When we have kids, will people think I'm the young nanny? (HA) Or will we both trudge along and look exactly the same age in the years to come? I guess only time will tell. (pun intended)
By AllBeehive Tuesday, May 09, 2006
5 Comments:
He's not an old man at 38. However your biological clock is ticking loudly as far as having children. My sister, now 42, waited until she was 38 to try to have a kid. She waited too long. They even tried invitro-fertilization (sp) at 15 grand it failed also. The problem was not her husbands but hers. My recommendation was to adopt. They have not done that either. I'm writing only to give you her story. Would'nt it be a drag to have a 20 yr old when you are 60? I hope you all age well one day at a time.
Do you have the gray hairs yet? I got my first at about 24. I remember so clearly seeing it in the bathroom mirror at work and plucking it out to verify that it was indeed a white hair. My co-workers were kind enough to say that for every one I plucked, three more would come in. And they've been coming in fast and furious since Nathan was born. Maybe because I occasionally pull my hair in frustration now.
I think you and DG may breeze along looking young, but when you have kids, the stress and lack of sleep will add those lines to both of you pretty fast.
Whozfan, did my Dad put you up to this? It's actually HIS biological clock that is ticking. He has wanted grandchildren for the last 10 years. Suffice it to say I didn't succumb to his wanting me to just go out and get knocked up. Unfortunately mine hasn't started ticking yet or it's still only at a level that dogs can hear.
And Saffry, no, I do not have any gray hair, and I don't ever plan on it :) if you know what i mean *wink*
whatever!
1)christy and DG will age just fine, and are both so young at heart they need some wrinkles to balance it all out.
2)whoever whozfan is needs to wake up and get with it- women have been having babies at or after 40 for DECADES. my own mother (thankyou) did so 30 yrs ago, and yes, my dad was 42 when I was born.... and is the best dad ever. so what if he was 70 when my younger brother graduated from college, he had kids because he wanted to. it was never 'drag' as you so pessimistically state, but rather his children and grandchildren are the highlights of his life. FYI, mr single-with-an-opinion, at age 34, my husband and I are some of the youngest parents at our daughter's preschool (most are 40+), call it what you will. people need to have children when they are good and ready to actually raise them, not a day sooner. fertility is a very fickle thing, there are risks at any age, and yes, they do increase for woman after 35... but that's been shoved down every woman's throat since age 22 at ever gyno visit, so there is no need to reiterate it here. point is, c + d need to celebrate their love and their youth... not fret about gettin old, and for God'ssake leave c's biological clock out of this! it's no one's business but hers.
No your dad didn't put me up to this. As I said earlier I just wanted you to know of my sisters situation. She has not taken it very well. She feels like she has let her husband down some how. It' sad. It's never too late for a man to father a child as long as he can get it up. With modern medicine that means basically a lifetime. Take care
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